Adult Children of Alcoholics

Adult Children of Alcoholics refers to individuals who have grown up in a dysfunctional household as a result of their caretakers's alcoholism. Adult Children of Alcoholics find they often carry common characteristics into adulthood as the result of their childhood and upbringing, often including alcohol abuse themselves. Adult Children of Alcoholics can also refer to the twelve-step program to assist them in the recovery process.^[1] Friends in Recovery, designed the Twelve Steps for Adult Children of Alcoholics.^[2]

Additional recommended knowledge

Guessing at what normal behavior is.
Having difficulty following a project through from beginning to end.
Lying when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.
Judging themselves without mercy.
Having difficulty having fun.
Taking themselves very seriously.
Having difficulty with intimate relationships.
Overreacting to changes over which they have no control.
Constantly seeking approval and affirmation.
Usually feeling that they are different from other people.
Extreme responsibility or irresponsibility.
Extreme loyalty, even in the face of evidence that the loyalty is undeserved.
Impulsivity - tending to lock themselves into a course of action without giving serious consideration to alternative behaviors or possible consequences. This impulsivity leads to confusion, self-loathing and loss of control over their environment. In addition, they spend an excessive amount of energy cleaning up the mess.

References

^ Black, Claudia (2001). It Will Never Happen to Me: Growing Up With Addiction As Youngsters, Adolescents, Adults, 2nd Edition, Hazelden. ISBN 1568387989. OCLC 50175563.
^ Friends in Recovery (1989). The 12 steps for adult children: from addictive and other dysfunctional families, Revised Edition, Recovery Publications. ISBN 0941405087. OCLC 20073450.
^ Woititz, Dr. Janet G., Adult Children of Alcoholics, Expanded Edition, HCI, 1990.